One needs closeness, one needs space. Both are valid.
This module teaches you to signal safety without control and take space without abandonment. Consistency lowers panic more than reassurance. Predictability,one check-in, one space window,does more than repeated "I love you"s when the nervous system doesn't believe it yet.
Exercises
- What Safety Actually Means To Me (done separately): Write what makes you feel safe in the relationship. Not what you think you "should" say,what actually works.
- Predictability Repair: Agree on one daily check-in (time or trigger) and one "space window" (e.g. "I need 30 minutes after work before heavy conversation"). Honor both.
- Reflection: Consistency lowers panic more than reassurance. Where can you add one small, predictable signal this week?
Share "What Safety Means To Me" without debating. Listen only.