There's an old story you believe about yourself. This helps you find the exact words it uses.
Most of us carry one quiet belief about ourselves that got written early, before you were old enough to argue with it. It shapes how you love, what you settle for, and how you treat yourself when no one's looking.
Answer a few honest questions and you'll see your version of that belief, put into plain words. Once you can name it, you can start to loosen its grip.