💜 BPD-Informed Coaching

Your emotions aren't too much.
They just need a translator.

BPD pattern coaching for people who feel everything intensely and are tired of being told to "just calm down."

This is for you if...

  • You've been called "too much" or "too intense" your whole life
  • You swing between loving someone and being convinced they hate you
  • You have a "favorite person" and it's exhausting for both of you
  • You write the unhinged text, then hate yourself for sending it
  • Abandonment feels like death, even when it's just someone being busy
  • You don't know who you are outside of your relationships
  • You need someone in your phone before you blow everything up
"You're not crazy. You're not manipulative. You're someone whose alarm system is calibrated for abandonment, and it goes off at the smallest signal. Let's learn to check the alarm before you act on it."

What we work on together

  • Splitting awareness & interrupts - Catching the all-or-nothing thinking before it takes over
  • Abandonment alarm regulation - Learning to tell the difference between real danger and triggered alarm
  • Idealization-devaluation mapping - Understanding why you flip on people you love
  • Favorite person detox - Building a life that doesn't revolve around one person's attention
  • Identity stabilization - Finding out who you are when you're not mirroring someone else
  • Before-you-text-them support - Real-time pattern interrupts via text between sessions
  • Emotional translation - Turning the storm into words others can actually hear

How it works

This isn't DBT or therapy. This is pattern coaching from someone who understands BPD intimately, not from a textbook, but from lived experience.

Sessions are real talk. I'm not going to pathologize you or treat you like a diagnosis. We'll look at what's happening, name the pattern, and build interrupts that actually work in the moment.

You'll leave each session with:

  • Clear understanding of which alarm got triggered
  • Scripts for what to say instead of the spiral text
  • Tools for the specific relationship situation you're in
  • Permission to text me before you text them (bundle clients)

Pricing

Single Session

$67 / 60 min

One focused session on a specific pattern or situation.

  • 60 minute call
  • Pattern identification
  • Scripts & tools
  • Follow-up notes
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4-Session Bundle

$227 / 4 sessions

Deeper work + text support between sessions.

  • 4 x 60 minute calls
  • Text me before you text them
  • Pattern tracking between sessions
  • Priority scheduling
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Common questions

Do I need a BPD diagnosis?
No. If you recognize yourself in the patterns above (the splitting, the abandonment alarm, the intensity), this can help whether or not you have a formal diagnosis. Many people have these patterns without meeting full criteria.
Is this a replacement for DBT?
No. If you're in DBT, keep going. This is complementary, pattern coaching focused on relationships and real-time situations. It's less structured than DBT but more personalized to your specific patterns.
What does "text me before you text them" mean?
Bundle clients get access to text me when they're activated, before they send the spiral text to their person. I'll help you check the alarm, translate the emotion, and send something that doesn't blow up the relationship.
What if I'm in a relationship with someone with BPD?
That's a different service. Check out the Translation Sessions on the coaching page. This page is specifically for people working on their own BPD patterns.
I'm scared you'll judge me for what I've done
I've seen it all and done half of it myself. This isn't a space for judgment. It's a space for understanding why you did the thing and building something different. Shame doesn't change patterns; clarity does.

Ready to stop the spiral?

You don't have to keep blowing up the things you love. Let's build a new pattern.

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