Module C3 of 6
Safety Without Suffocation or Distance
Learning to signal safety without control
One of you needs closeness to feel safe. One needs space.
Both are valid. The problem is when closeness feels like suffocation or space feels like abandonment. This module teaches you to give each other what you need without losing yourselves.
Do This Separately First
Fill out Exercise C3.1 alone. Then read to each other.
Exercise C3.1 (Do Separately)
What Safety Actually Means To Me
Safety feels like:
Unsafety feels like:
Read To Each Other
Take turns reading your answers. Listen without defending.
Predictability Repair
Consistency lowers panic more than reassurance. Decide together:
One predictable check-in we'll do:
One predictable space window we'll honor:
These aren't rules. They're rhythms that calm the nervous system.