💬 Text Support

Someone who gets it.
In your phone.
When you need them.

Not therapy. Not a chatbot. Just a real person who knows your patterns ready to help before you spiral.

I'm about to send a really unhinged text
Screenshot it. Send to me first. Do not send to him.
[screenshot]
Okay that's your flooded mirror talking. What do you actually need right now?

You know that moment when you're activatedheart racing, fingers hovering over the keyboard, about to do the thing you always regret?

You know it's your pattern. You know you'll feel stupid later. But in the moment, you can't stop yourself.

What if you had someone to text first?

Someone who knows your specific pattern. Who can say "that's your abandonment alarm, not reality" before you blow everything up. Who can help you write the text that doesn't destroy trust.

Not a therapist scheduling you for next Thursday. Someone in your pocket right now.

This is for you if...

ADHD BPD NPD Trauma Response Anxious Attachment
  • You've texted things you regret when activated and need someone to intercept
  • You know your patterns intellectually but can't stop them in real-time
  • Your friends are tired of being your crisis line (fair)
  • Therapy once a week isn't cutting it for the stuff that happens at 11pm
  • You need someone who speaks your specific nervous system language
  • You're done spiraling alone
What you're getting

This isn't therapy. It's backup.

Not this

  • Clinical language
  • Scheduled "sessions"
  • "How does that make you feel?"
  • Professional distance
  • 24/7 crisis hotline
  • A replacement for therapy

This is

  • "That's your exposure alarm, not reality"
  • Real-time pattern interrupts
  • "Don't send that. Try this instead."
  • Someone who's been in the impact zone
  • Support during reasonable hours
  • A friend who happens to see patterns
Pattern-Specific Support

I speak your nervous system's language

⚡ ADHD Support

Your brain isn't broken. You just need a different operating system.

  • Task initiation nudges when you're stuck
  • Body doubling via text (yes, it works)
  • RSD first aid when rejection hits hard
  • Time-blindness reality checks
  • "Just start" accountability pings
  • Dopamine-friendly check-ins
  • Hyperfocus interrupts when needed
  • Non-shaming accountability

💜 BPD Support

Your emotions aren't too much. They just need a translator.

  • Splitting awareness in real-time
  • Before-you-text-them interception
  • Abandonment alarm reality checks
  • FP (favorite person) detox support
  • Idealization/devaluation mapping
  • Emotional flooding protocols
  • Identity anchoring when you feel lost
  • Script rewrites before you send

🔥 NPD Support

You're not a monster. You're wired for protection.

  • Ego regulation without shame
  • Accountability without attack
  • Supply-free self-worth check-ins
  • Impact awareness (gentle version)
  • Grandiosity-to-groundedness support
  • Relationship repair scripting
  • Collapse prevention
  • Real talk, no judgment
What it actually looks like

Real conversations, not scripts

When you're about to spiral
He hasn't texted back in 4 hours. I know he's done.
Is that real or is that your abandonment alarm?
...probably the alarm
What's one actual fact about the situation?
He said he had a busy day at work
Okay. So we have: busy day (fact) vs. he's leaving (alarm). Which one has evidence?
When you need a script
I need to tell her that hurt me but I don't know how without sounding dramatic
Try: "When you said X, I felt Y. I'm not blaming you, I just need you to know it landed hard."
That's so much simpler than what I had
Your first draft was probably 3 paragraphs of over-explaining. This is what you actually mean.
When you did the thing
I sent the unhinged text. He hasn't responded.
Okay. What's done is done. What do you need right now?
To not send 5 more
Put the phone in another room. Set a timer for 2 hours. We'll regroup after. You survived. That's the update.
ADHD task paralysis
I have to do this thing and I've been staring at it for 2 hours
What's the smallest possible first step? Like embarrassingly small.
Open the document
Do that. Just that. Text me when it's open.
...okay it's open
Good. Now type one sentence. Any sentence. It can be bad.
Choose your level

Membership tiers that fit where you are

Want the full explainer for every tier first? Read the memberships overview page.

Tier 1:1 texting Calls Library Courses Price
Tier 1 Intensive Support ✓ ✓ ✓ ✓ $200 + $75/mo
Tier 2 Steady Guidance ✓ — ✓ — $125 + $45/mo
Tier 3 Daily Guidance ✓ — — — $75 + $35/mo
Tier 4 Premium Library — — ✓ ✓ $30/mo
Tier 5 Basic Library — — ✓ — $20/mo

Tier 1: Intensive Support

"One safe person changes everything."

1:1 texting • Calls when needed • Curated library access • Courses included

$200
upfront + $75/month
Join Tier 1

Tier 2: Steady Guidance

"Sometimes you don't need to talk. You need someone who gets it in your messages."

1:1 texting • No calls • Library access • Courses not included

$125
upfront + $45/month
Join Tier 2

Tier 3: Daily Guidance

"Just text. I got you."

1:1 texting only • No calls • No library access • Upgrade anytime

$75
upfront + $35/month
Join Tier 3

Tier 4: Premium Library

"Everything I built in one place."

Full library • Courses included • Monthly additions • No direct access

$30
per month
Join Tier 4

Tier 5: Basic Library

"This is the starting point."

Library access • Grows monthly • No courses • No direct access

$20
per month
Join Tier 5
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Nervous System Safety Plan

$200 upfront
then $75/month

I know what it costs to not have one safe person in your corner. This tier is for people who want direct support plus the full library and courses in one place.

  • Text me directly when you need support
  • Call when you need real-time grounding
  • Use the full curated library
  • Courses included with your tier
  • No per-message meter running
Join Tier 1

You can start in any tier and upgrade whenever you want.

Questions

What you're probably wondering

What are your response hours?
I respond between 9am-8pm in my timezone. After-hours messages get answered first thing in the morning. This isn't a crisis line it's sustainable support.
Is this therapy?
No. I'm not a licensed therapist and this isn't a replacement for therapy. It's pattern support someone who knows your nervous system patterns and can help you interrupt them in real-time. If you need clinical support, I'll tell you.
What if I'm in crisis?
I'm not equipped for crisis intervention. If you're in danger or having thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a crisis line (988 in the US). I'm here for pattern support, not emergencies.
How is this different from just texting a friend?
Your friends love you but they can't see your patterns objectively. I can say "that's your abandonment alarm" without getting pulled into the drama. And I won't get exhausted by your spirals it's literally what I'm here for.
Do I need a diagnosis?
No. If you recognize yourself in the patterns I describe (the spiraling, the before-you-text-them moments, the task paralysis), this can help whether or not you have formal diagnoses. Many people are undiagnosed or self-diagnosed.
Can I cancel anytime?
Yes. Monthly subscriptions can be cancelled before your next billing date. No questions, no guilt trips.
What if it's not for me?
Start at the tier that feels safest and adjust from there. You can move up to more support or shift down to library-only access anytime.

Choose the support level that fits right now.

From direct 1:1 access to library-only options, you have a clear starting point and room to upgrade when you need more.

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