Pattern Spectrum
When they hurt you, which way do they go?
Some people push outward when things get hard. They blame, control, go cold. Others fall inward. They shut down, spiral, over apologize. And some can actually own it and repair. Answer 18 questions about someone in your life, and you'll see which of these three they lean toward, and why your usual approach hasn't worked on them.
One thing first: This is for clarity, not blame. It can't diagnose anyone, and it isn't a label to hang on a person. It just helps you name what you've been living with, so you stop wondering if you're imagining it. Use it to understand your own experience.
Pushes out
Falls in
Can repair
18 items · 5 minutes · Includes safety screening