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Cluster totals first, individual scores second. Your nervous system threat map + processing style.

Before you start: these scores are a snapshot, not a sentence. Your nervous system state right now will affect your answers. Someone in crisis will score differently than the same person two months into feeling safer. That is not a flaw in the system. It is the system working correctly, because your patterns are not static and your scores should not be either. Take this when you are as regulated as you currently get. Come back to it in three months. The shift in your scores will tell you more than the scores themselves.
The matrix has thirty dimensions because the wound has thirty ways of showing itself. But thirty is too many to work with at once. So the first thing you will see is not your thirty scores. You will see four cluster totals that tell you where the pattern is heaviest. That is your entry point. The individual scores sit underneath for when you are ready to go granular.
Visibility WoundsMasks related to being seen, recognized, or acknowledged. High scores here mean the nervous system learned that being visible was dangerous or that invisibility was the only way to survive.
Safety WoundsMasks related to physical or emotional security. High scores here mean the baseline assumption is threat. The nervous system is running threat detection as its primary job.
Worth WoundsMasks related to value, deservingness, and identity. High scores here mean the person built their sense of self around what they could do for others or what others decided they were.
Connection WoundsMasks related to belonging, intimacy, and trust. High scores here mean the nervous system learned that closeness costs more than it gives.
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Abandonment Response

1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often
When texts slow down, my chest tightens and thoughts race.
I check old messages looking for signs they're pulling away.
I test with silence or withdrawal to see if they chase.
After conflict I cannot relax until there is clear repair.
Small signs of distance feel like the relationship is ending.

Exposure Response

1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often
When criticized I get defensive before I have processed what was said.
I would rather be right than be close.
I build mental cases defending myself during conflict.
Apologizing feels like losing even when I know I was wrong.
Being seen as wrong feels like a threat to my safety.

Entrapment Response

1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often
Normal relationship expectations feel suffocating.
I pick fights or blow things up to get breathing room.
I say yes when I mean no then resent them for it.
I keep one foot out the door in relationships.
Commitment feels like losing freedom.

Erasure Response

1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often
I track where I rank in people's priorities.
Being overlooked or forgotten brings up intense pain.
I over-give to secure my position in relationships.
I need visible proof that I matter.
I wonder if people would notice if I disappeared.

Processing Style

1 = Rarely | 2 = Sometimes | 3 = Often
I lose track of time and forget to eat when I am focused.
Switching tasks mid-flow feels physically painful.
Background noise blocks my thinking or emotions.
I rehearse talks before and replay them after.
Without clear structure I lose days to paralysis.
Certain textures, sounds, or lights drain me.
I mask natural responses to fit in and crash later.
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