🔥 NPD-Informed Coaching

You're not a monster.
You're wired for protection.

NPD pattern coaching for people who are ready to build real self-worth without the shame spiral or the supply chase.

This is for you if...

  • You've been called narcissistic and you're trying to figure out what's real
  • You know you've hurt people but "just stop" isn't working
  • You cycle between feeling superior and feeling like garbage
  • You need validation constantly but hate that you need it
  • Your relationships keep exploding and you don't fully understand why
  • You want accountability that doesn't feel like an attack
"Most advice for narcissistic patterns is either 'you're a monster, do better' or 'you're fine, everyone else is the problem.' Neither helps. You need someone who sees the wound and the weapon."

What we work on together

  • Ego regulation without shame - Learning to tolerate criticism without collapsing or attacking
  • Supply-free self-worth - Building an identity that doesn't depend on constant validation
  • Accountability without attack - Owning impact without spiraling into self-hatred
  • Relationship repair scripts - What to actually say when you've hurt someone
  • Grandiosity-to-groundedness - Finding the middle between "I'm special" and "I'm worthless"
  • Partner impact awareness - Understanding what it's actually like to be in relationship with you
  • Trigger mapping - Knowing your collapse/attack points before you hit them

How it works

This isn't therapy. I'm not diagnosing you or trying to "fix" you. This is pattern coaching - helping you see your automatic responses and build different ones.

Sessions are direct. I'll reflect back what I see without sugarcoating, but also without judgment. The goal is clarity and tools, not shame.

You'll leave each session with:

  • Clear understanding of what pattern got activated
  • Scripts for the specific situation you're dealing with
  • Homework that actually moves the needle
  • A plan for when you get triggered again (because you will)

Pricing

Single Session

$67 / 60 min

One focused session on a specific pattern or situation.

  • 60 minute call
  • Pattern identification
  • Scripts & tools
  • Follow-up notes
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Common questions

Do I need a diagnosis to work with you?
No. Many people have narcissistic patterns without meeting clinical criteria for NPD. If you recognize yourself in the patterns described above, this can help regardless of diagnosis.
Will you tell me I'm a narcissist?
I'm not here to diagnose you. I'm here to help you see your patterns clearly and build different responses. Whether you use the NPD label is up to you.
Is this going to be you attacking me for an hour?
No. Direct doesn't mean aggressive. I'll reflect what I see honestly, but the goal is clarity and tools, not shame. If you're expecting someone to beat you up, you'll be surprised.
What if my partner is the one who thinks I'm narcissistic?
We can work with that. Sometimes it's accurate, sometimes it's projection, often it's a mix. We'll look at the actual patterns, not the labels.

Ready to see the pattern clearly?

No shame spiral. No attack. Just honest pattern work with someone who gets it.