There is a horrible tug of war that happens between people with heavy internal symptoms and the medical system.
You walk into the office carrying years of pressure in your body. Your chest hurts. Your stomach is wrecked. Your head feels like static. Your thoughts race. You feel like something is very wrong.
You get the tests. Blood work. Scans. Vitals.
Everything comes back "normal."
On paper, you are fine. In your body, you are falling apart.
Both are true at the same time.
The doctor is right in one way. They do not see anything life threatening that their machines can pick up.
You are also right. Your nervous system is carrying too much. Your internal pressure is turning into symptoms that are real, just not easily measurable on a quick lab report.
Doctors are human. Over time, they get desensitized. They see the same complaints day after day. The same phrases. The same panicked faces. They build walls without even noticing.
It becomes easier to assume "Anxiety." "Attention seeking." "Non compliant patient."
Meanwhile people with BPD traits and other trauma patterns keep showing up at the office because the pain is unbearable and nothing has worked.
From the outside that can look like hypochondria. From the inside it feels like begging the only people with power to please listen.
So the doctor thinks "There is nothing wrong. This person is spiraling." The patient thinks "I know something is wrong. Why will nobody help me."
They both feel disrespected. They both get defensive. They both build a story about the other.
The doctor starts to form a bias. The patient starts to doubt their own body.
You walk out of the office thinking "Maybe I am crazy, but I still feel like I am dying."
What if we called it what it really is.
A communication breakdown between a system that only trusts numbers and a person whose symptoms live in the space those numbers cannot measure.
This does not mean every doctor is evil or every patient is always correct. It means we have to stop acting like one side owns the full truth.
Your body is not lying just because a test is normal. A doctor is not lying just because they do not see organ failure.
You live in your body every second. They see you for fifteen minutes on a tight schedule.
That is why learning your patterns matters. Tracking what triggers your symptoms. Noticing what helps and what makes it worse. Building language around your experience so you can explain it without collapsing or exploding.
You cannot control whether a doctor has bias. You can control how deeply you know your own body, so you do not abandon yourself just because someone in a white coat shrugs.
You are not a hypochondriac for feeling pressure that does not show up on a lab.
You are a human whose nervous system is screaming in a language our current medical system barely recognizes.
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